I am a very grateful birth mother. I am a single parent. I am 37 and found out I was going to have another child with someone who did not want to be involved. I was scared and sad. I did not know where to turn, as I did not want to consider other options. I knew I could not take on another child in the position I was in.
For months I was in emotional distress; fighting with the thought on how I was going to be able to give this new baby the life she so deserved. I knew I would not have the support of her father or the support of his family. I knew the daily struggles of already being a single mom.
I opened my laptop one day and started researching adoption agencies. I did not know much about the process and I wanted to make an informed decision for the life I was going to be responsible for. I looked at several sites and when I found Journeys of the Heart I saw they were a local agency with a family feel for clients and I immediately reached out to them. I cannot begin to tell you how relieved I was at our first meeting.
My adoption coordinator explained open adoption and helped to understand which options I had available to me. I went home to think about what kind of life I could give the baby, compared the life she would have with an adoptive family. I was able to be in control of each step. This was extremely important to me.
I picked out the family for my child and had several great meetings with the family. As I got to know them, it became more clear that was doing the very best I could for this baby.
The staff at Journeys was there for me every step of the way by offering me support and the option of counseling before and after I gave birth. If I just needed to talk about my feelings, they were there. I feel that I built a supportive foundation with people who understood my situation.
When it was time for me to have the baby, my adoption coordinator was right next to me holding my hand and encouraging me. We built a bond that I will forever be grateful for.
I am not saying that my decision was not hard… Because it was. Sometimes doing the right thing is not the easiest. But with the support I received from Journeys, I felt that I had made the best decision for the life of my child.
My daughter, Olivia, was born healthy. The life I was able to give her is beyond anything I had every dreamt of. I can never be thankful enough for finding an extended family with the adoptive family and my friends at Journeys of the Heart. It was an amazing journey…