Our message to you is of compassion, open-mindedness, and acceptance. Our thoughts are with you. We sincerely thank you for considering adoption, and the possibility of us as parents. There is simply no way for us to know what you’re going through, though we understand this must be an incredibly difficult decision. We want the best for you and your child and wish you the best now and in the future. Even though we haven’t met, we respect your decision, whatever it may be.
We are Adam and Joanne, and we live in a quiet college town in western Oregon. This is our paradise. We intentionally moved here, not once, but twice. Before we met, we each moved to Oregon to pursue graduate school and a new way of life. Then, 14 years ago, we met through mutual friends and quickly grew very fond of each other. Ten years ago, we married in the Coast Range of Oregon, a place that embodied our love of the outdoors. To pursue additional education and career development, we lived in Colorado for 7 years, where Joanne was a professor and Adam obtained his Ph.D. However, we were always drawn back to the Pacific Northwest, our home, and we were very fortunate to have been able to move back. Our lives (and Oregon) have changed in that time. What hasn’t changed is our love for the outdoors and open space. In our current home, we love our immediate proximity to open space and agriculture, the coast, and hiking- yet we are close enough to the Portland metropolitan area to easily pop over to see friends and go out to dinner.
We both highly value education and, together, we have supported each other while obtaining our Ph.D. in genetics for Joanne and fisheries science for Adam. Joanne is a college biology professor and Adam has a small construction business, fixing up old houses. We really like how our careers work together. It reminds us to continue learning in and out of the classroom, balanced with the hands-on practicality of building a home. Both of us really like to work with our hands and we are drawn towards projects that require our devoted attention. Even though we are trained as scientists, we enjoy the artistic process of creating something new.
Spending time with family, time outside and in open space, preparing and eating good food, and finding new things that inspire us are the things that we enjoy most. We have a very friendly dog (a black lab) named Cooper, who is the best dog ever (Ha Ha!) and reminds us to get outside often, whether for walks around town, or hikes in open space like Forest Park or Tillamook National Forest. Joanne enjoys anything outdoors – especially gardening and hiking with Cooper. In the rainy season she enjoys knitting for her niece and nephews. Adam enjoys anything in the kitchen – his favorite thing is to create and cook our own dinners from scratch, such as making pasta with his mom’s Italian spaghetti sauce recipe. He also enjoys making sausage and has recently began making sourdough bread! We really are do-it-your-selfers … well, except for making a baby. But we’re hoping you can help us out with that!
We also both love to build community, and seek to experience life with those around us – friends, family, and co-workers. We love to host Sunday dinners, which Adam cooks, and have our friends, and their children spend time in our home.
We see adoption as the greatest gift someone could share with us—one that would allow us to start a family and broaden our world. We are committed to and inspired to become parents. We worked with infertility clinics and tried a variety of infertility treatments for four years, including in vitro fertilization (IVF). Though this did not lead to a successful pregnancy, we continually returned to the goal of having a family. With this realization, we knew that it was time to let go of our initial vision of a biological child, and put our efforts into adoption, a process which humbles and inspires us. Adoption would allow us to build a family, something that would not be possible for us otherwise. Although we initially thought a family might happen through other more conventional approaches, we are truly open-minded and accepting about how our dream would happen.
We believe and know that family means more than your blood relatives. We also know that at times, life is complicated. We welcome and encourage an open adoption, if and when that option works for you. Joanne grew up with two sets of parents and additional non-blood related siblings, due to some non-nuclear family circumstances, which we are happy to share if you are interested. She cherishes this extended network of additional parents and multiple generations of extended family. Both she and Adam believe these family members have enriched their lives and expanded their definitions of family – allowing us to experience so much more than we would have otherwise. It wasn’t always easy to explain our family to others, but it’s who we are, and it’s how see life: beautiful in its complexities and surprises. We draw peace and strength from those around us – from each other, our friends, and our extended family – and we see you as a part of that. We say this from a place of welcoming, not out of pressure or with expectations. Please understand that we want what is best for you, and if that includes us raising your child, we would be honored and humbled that you have chosen us for this most precious gift.
Joanne and Adam